PERSONAL STORIES
“I Am Anchored by Her Support”
From the words of Mr. Thomas, a happily married man
In a world full of people who only think of themselves, is it possible to find someone who fully supports you?
I discovered that, yes, there are truly genuine individuals out there. Some of them may live far away or even be much younger than you.
Those were the words of a man who found love somewhere in Southeast Asia. It’s a love he never even thought existed.
Meet Thomas, a happily married man whom I had the fortune of interviewing for this article. With his permission to have his story published, we’re free to navigate the tale of his love life.
When I met my wife, Lisa, I was going through a rough patch–at work, with my family, and even with my friends. I decided to take a quick vacation to the Philippines to somehow unwind and get away from it all.
I was by the beach, trying to enjoy the sunset when I saw her. Sure, the sunsets there are amazing, but wait until you see the locals with their pretty smiles, like my wife. Her smile was the prettiest, though.
Ever since that day when I initiated conversation with her, we started spending time together, getting to know each other. I stayed longer than I expected, enjoying her company and her culture.
I was honest with her about my situation. I thought she’d only pity me, but when I told her about my problems, she supported me in ways that made me feel better.
By holding my hand.
And no, she wasn’t just there.
She stood by my side, holding me in a way that no one had ever done before. I’m not talking about how tight the grip is, I’m talking about how her presence and touch moved me emotionally.
She has the kind of touch that makes me feel everything will be okay and that she would be there to support me no matter what. She is incredibly thoughtful and sensible, knowing just when and how to hold me.
By affirming me.
Yes, she often compliments my looks, but she also praises me for who I am as a person — reminding me of my good qualities and how it is to my advantage to have those.
By her wit.
She has this way of cheering me on with her humor and it works all the time. It would usually start with a joke, but along the conversation, there would be random affectionate advice to make me feel at ease.
By her wisdom.
She considers lots of things when analyzing a problem, and I’m still amazed with her mind. She’s an intelligent woman who knows how to apply her knowledge.
I didn’t just find myself a wife. I found my partner in life. We both learn from and grow with each other. We’ve been married for years and she’s still the Lisa I met years ago.
She’s there for me physically, emotionally, and mentally. She has her way of communicating with me effectively.
She consistently does this still. I couldn’t be more thankful.
And she never fails to keep me grounded.
Mutual understanding and emotional support are the foundations of every healthy relationship.
Being supportive is paying attention to, taking care of, and assisting each other. Couples who are genuinely supportive understand that their partners are there for them, no matter what.
This makes them feel more grounded and in touch with reality, which helps them happier together and maintain their strength as a couple. People who are supported by their partners also tend to be braver individuals.
Sometimes, all we need is a little support from someone for us to have the courage to face the world head-on.
