Attraction and Dating: From a Shy to Confident Guy

For extroverts, dating is easy. They are generally friendly, they can quickly get comfortable communicating and showing their qualities to their dates.

However, for shy guys, it’s a completely different story.

Shy men may admire and love someone but never pursue them. As a result, they often miss out on relationship opportunities.

If you’re the guy I’m talking about, this is your sign to get out of your comfort zone.

In the dating world, shyness will get you nowhere. So be the confident man you’ve always wanted to be. Here’s what you can do.

Appreciate yourself

Do you have a good sense of humor?

Are you trustworthy?

Are you kind and loving?

Acknowledge and appreciate your good qualities. Soon enough, you’ll learn to love yourself more and develop high self-esteem, allowing you to feel good about yourself regardless of what others say.

By appreciating yourself, you will stop comparing yourself to others because you recognize your own strengths and true value.

Improve your looks

You don’t need a drastic change. Simply do things that will improve your appearance and boost your confidence. For instance, invest in skincare to make your skin look smoother and healthier. Additionally, if you feel like losing weight will help you look better, exercise, and have a healthy diet.

Initiate small talk

Don’t hide from the rest of the world. Although social interactions can be exhausting, they will help you overcome your shyness. To initiate small talk, you can start by conversing with your colleagues about work or commenting on something pleasant to your friends. Anything will suffice as long as you get used to interacting with other people.

On the other hand, if you like someone, you don’t need to immediately go on a date. You can start talking to them online and get to know them gradually.

This is why online dating is ideal, especially for shy guys because they can take their time building their confidence before meeting their match in person.

Observe your environment

Examine how other people interact with their friends and notice what they say. You will get an idea of the possibilities and outcomes in social situations.

When doing this, keep your cool and don’t become a creep to avoid making people feel uncomfortable.

Do your thing

What are your hobbies and interests? Are you still pursuing them?

Continue doing what you love and focus on yourself. By doing so, you will improve your mindset, increase your confidence, and attract the right people.

Don’t be afraid of rejection

Even the most confident men get rejected, so don’t let your fear of rejection prevent you from pursuing anyone.

Oftentimes, rejection is merely a redirection. When you are rejected, it means that you’re being directed to something or someone better suited for you.

Let it go

Don’t overthink it. Loosen up and rid yourself of destructive thoughts. Getting out of your comfort zone can be scary and difficult, but it’s all part of growth.

Good things take time, so be patient and believe in yourself. By doing so, you’ll surely get the woman.

I’m rooting for you. Good luck with your growth!