DATING ADVICE
Keep Everything Balanced When Courting a Filipina
“Perhaps too much of everything is as bad as too little.” — Edna Ferber
Not letting our emotions overwhelm us or letting only logic dictate us is applicable for just about any area of life, including courtship.
When courting women, keeping your approach balanced is essential, even more so when your lady is one from a different culture.
Many foreign men who have successfully courted Filipinas have learned this. Mostly, Filipinas abide by their traditional culture. This is a well-known trait of theirs, and most older foreign men are aware of this.
But in these modern times, traditional Filipino courtship has become more relaxed, and some men are beginning to lose interest in it altogether. But it’s still a good idea to be aware of how it goes, so if a Filipina captures your heart, you know how to approach her properly. A mix of modern and traditional ideals can help you.
Keep in mind, her acceptance of you may hinge on you finding the ideal balance between sincere intentions and an appropriate set of principles.
Don’t be too aggressive.
You’ll scare them off.
Men being too blunt generally makes women uncomfortable. When you do that, there’s the risk that you’ll be called a creep. When you don’t respect their boundaries, you can even provoke a violent response from them.
Yes, this is an extreme-case scenario, especially among women who were raised to be modest, like Filipinas. But just because Filipinas are modest doesn’t mean they’re helpless. They’ve been taught to watch out for and avoid aggressive men. If necessary, they’ll do what they can to defend themselves.
You also shouldn’t act too casually around them. You might give them the impression that you don’t want to get to know them romantically. If you act too casually, they’ll think you enjoy their company as a friend. Believe me, women can respect that. They’ll either be your friend or simply stay away.
Use both your wit and your confidence to approach them. Make jokes, but keep it wholesome, especially when you’re still trying to talk to them. Filipinas like clever pick-up lines that are both sweet and funny. Why? It shows your creativity. It’s like the modern version of reciting poetry to a potential sweetheart.
Be respectful. Be a gentleman. Filipinas may be modern, but they still know how a gentleman is supposed to act.
Don’t be too needy.
Or else you’ll stifle her.
Filipinas are independent in the sense that they know how to live their own lives and have their own aspirations. She would greatly appreciate it if you gave her the space she needs to live her life as she did before you arrived.
Filipinas appreciate a man who cares for and treats them with respect. Demonstrating just the right amount of concern and affirmation will help you capture her heart.
Don’t be too touchy.
Consent is a must.
Filipino women are conservative when it comes to intimacy, therefore you should know how to ask for consent. Otherwise, that’s harassment. If physical touch is your preferred method of expressing your love, you should ask politely if she’s okay with that. If not, it would complicate your romance.
Even in these modern times, most Filipinas still adhere to this. It’s considered to be common courtesy that before touching or acting intimately toward a woman, you should first obtain her trust–and maintain this consistently–and then her permission.
Don’t be too dominant.
That equates to controlling them.
Filipinas are known for their adaptability and ability to survive whatever life throws at them. While assistance is always appreciated, there are times when they would prefer to face challenges alone. All you need to do is hold her hand firmly and provide support.
They may seem submissive, but never mistake that for weakness. Mostly, they’re just appreciative of your instinct to take the lead. Keep in mind to never take advantage of that, because most Filipinas are feisty. Life has taught them to be.
Keep your approach balanced.
Winning the heart of a Filipina is wonderful. It takes a lot of effort and time to prove to them that your intentions are sincere. This continues even when you’re already with them.
You can court them in a traditional or modern way, but always keep in mind to stay true to your feelings without letting them rule over you. Choose to be kind, respectful, and gentle.
It is as simple and as complicated as that, but it sure is worth it.
