How to Propose to Your Filipina Girlfriend

Most, if not all Filipinas, have a dream proposal in mind. They hope for it to be perfectly romantic.

You wouldn’t want to butcher your marriage proposal to a Filipina since she can be the most nurturing and loyal wife you can possibly have. Not that Filipinas are hard to please, but these women deserve everything in the world. They want to remember this momentous day for the rest of their lives.

If you plan to ask a Filipina for marriage and make it as smooth as possible, you might want to check on these first before asking for her “yes.”

Don’t be impulsive.

Ask yourself many times if she’s really the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with. If you’re feeling unsure, then don’t rush it. Spend more time getting to know her.

Filipinas see marriage as a life-long commitment. As much as they can, they will hold on to their promise of “till death do us part.” She’ll cling to your marriage even when times get hard.

You have to look at marriage the same if you wish to marry her. Do you see it as a lifelong commitment? Or you’re just in it for now because you can eventually divorce her later? If you believe the latter, then don’t waste your time and go back to your home country.

No Filipina deserves false hopes. If you don’t plan on spending your whole life with her, then better give her the chance to actualize her dream with somebody else.

Plan your marriage proposal.

If you’re 100% sure she’s the one, then it’s time to carefully plan how to ask her hand for marriage.

Filipinas are romantic women. But they’re not asking for too much. They simply dream of being asked “Will you marry me” while you kneel on one knee, holding a ring.

They can’t even be bothered if you do it in the simplest of places or the cheapest of rings. What matters is your sincerity to ask her hand for marriage. You can ask her over a dinner date, on a trip to the beach or amusement park, or when you visit her at home.

But she’ll appreciate it more if you arrange a special place just to pop the question. It’s the most romantic if you ask her parents to be present on that day, too. No doubt she’ll cry for this highly romantic gesture.

She’ll be the happiest person on earth and she’ll remember it till your hair turns gray.

Learn “pamamanhikan”

You already know by now that Filipinos respect their parents and elders a lot. So when it comes to an important life decision, such as marriage, they must be taken into consideration.

Your proposal doesn’t end with her answering “yes.” So don’t go all out with the celebration just yet. You still have one important custom to conquer.

Filipinos practice pamamanhikan. It’s a pre-marriage practice where the groom pays his respects to the bride’s parents and family. You will visit her house, ideally with your parents or family, and express your intention to marry their daughter.

You will also bring food for both families to eat. Both your parents will then agree on the marriage, bless your decision, and discuss the details of your upcoming wedding.

Your proposal or engagement will only be official after the pamamanhikan. After that, you’re good to plan for the wedding and, eventually, your whole life with your Filipina bride.